With less than a month until my wedding, I've learned much in the 15 months of planning.

How can it be that we are less than a month from the wedding? Are you telling me I'm being a bride in less than 30 days? I'm not freaking out; you're freaking out. 15 months of planning have been intense but also exciting, and I've learned so much. So, today, I'm spilling the tea on what I've discovered so far and how to stay calm and excited despite the endless hitches you can encounter. 

Invitation management

One of the most challenging parts of the planning process is invitation management. We have a lot of people that have to travel to be present at our wedding, so we decided to communicate the save-the-date a year before and give the actual wedding invitations 9 months before, letting everyone have the time to book the flights. 

Despite this attention, we had a lot of challenges collecting the responses. It's stressful mainly because it feels like you need to chase people to beg for feedback.  

But you desperately need a sure number of guests to plan and print the tableau marriage and the centerpieces. So, as the wedding date is approaching, you want to define these details that depend on other people. Even though you communicate a deadline for the RSVP, you might encounter this challenge to face. 

Details, details, details

If there's anything that can ruin your special day, it is forgetting about the details. 

For example, I planned to order a bunch of vans to give to my guests for the venue. It's not an essential part of the wedding, but it's a detail that can facilitate the day's mood. 

Then, if you want to incorporate something fun, you can plan a Polaroid corner to collect spontaneous pictures of the day. So, you need to prepare in advance to purchase the necessities. 

Even the menu and the wedding cake are crucial. You want to create harmony between each course and take your guests on an emotional trip. 

You can't control everything. So, please take a deep breath. 

This is a constant reminder I say to myself. I can't control everything. I can't prevent the weather, the people who don't send their RSVP or the atelier timeline. So, as brides-to-be, we need to take a deep breath and accept that we can't control everything. We can do our best to make the most out of our special day, but there's no chance we can control things where other people are involved. 

It's hard, I know, because we all dream of this day being perfect and memorable, but at a certain point, we need to have faith that everything will be fine. 

This is a lesson I've learned after a few months of planning. And I constantly remind myself that the most important and precious thing I can dream of for my wedding is the love between my fiancé and me. At the end of the day, it is a way to celebrate love. So, put the love on the main stage and protect it from the stress and the chit-chats. No matter how many people you'll have at your wedding. The ones who'll be there, they'll be enough to celebrate sincerely your love. The others haven't meant to be. 

Trust your gut

Last but not least, trust your gut and heart. They know the right way before you. So, if you don't like following the rules or the habits, invent your rules for your special day. 

Making your rules will make your special day even more personal, so go for it.